The hubby and I have been kicking around the idea of having a doula for the birth of this child. Since moving to PA I have put a rather large distance between myself and my former birthing coach…mom, and I am very worried about being alone for this birth. The hubby is unbelievably supportive and I have no doubt will be so during the delivery, but I need a woman there too. Someone who knows what’s going on, someone who can be firm as well as supportive. Someone who can rub my back for 4 hours straight if I have back labor again. I don’t have any close girlfriends here in PA who fit that role. So I began researching this whole “doula” business. I’m sure some of you are saying the same thing I did, “What the heck is a doula?” A doula is a non-medical birth assistant, usually a woman. She is there for your emotional as well as physical needs. She is there to help your partner when they want to be actively involved, or to take over for a while if your partner needs a break. They massage, help you with breathing exercises, labor positions, all to help birth go as smoothly and naturally as possible. They will help you write up a birthing plan. Most of them offer 24/7 on call support prior too and after your due date as well. Many offer child birth classes or individualized support spread over a couple of prenatal visits.
A great place to learn more, and where our search started, is here, DONA International. They can tell you what a doula is, how to hire one, a list of doulas in your area. It’s a great resource. When we first started looking I really didn’t think we could afford this amazing service, but as I bounced from website to website I noticed a common theme, “A doula for every woman who wants one.” These women are so incredibly giving. Many offer payment plans or do pro bono work. That withstanding, the price for a labor package is really quite affordable, and would have been no problem for us prior to our income slash. It truly takes a very particularly compassionate type of woman to do this work. I even looked at one of the pages on becoming a doula and these ladies certainly aren’t in it for the money. This is compassion at its purest. And speaking of which, let me introduce Antonette…
She is our doula and we are so glad that we found her, she has literally been an answer to our prayer. She has a wonderful website, Nascita Doula. I found Antonette through the doula network. She has been so gracious in working with us during our time of seriously tight budgetitus. She will be coming to our home on Monday for dinner and birthing ball tutoring. I am so excited!
Also for any nursing moms, or new moms out there, she developed some really fantastic products: The boobie bib *Lord only knows the google hits I am going to get from that one ;)* as well as some really gorgeous baby bags I am loving the patterns and the price on these. Very affordable. Go, go look at them now. Even if you aren’t expecting, if you know someone who is, this is the greatest gift a mom could ask for! No huge bulky stroller to lug around and an amazing bonding opportunity. Seriously, what are you still doing here, go look! Oh and Chris, I think Chaos and May need baby slings…the Feeling Groovy pattern for May and the Paisley Mocha Blue for Chaos. Really, it’s only the next step after the bib wearing. 😉
P.S. For those of you who mistakenly thought this was a knitting blog…well it is, I am almost finished with Mr. Greenjeans, pictures to follow when it stops raining (grrr). It’s looking awesome and I have a couple of vintage checz glass buttons that I need to decide on for the closure.